Do you need to set boundaries? 31 Day Challenge / Day 30

Boundaries Naomi Mc laughlan

Is it time for you to say ‘no’ to people?

We often spread ourselves too thin, which can lead to frustration, struggle, overwhelm and eventually to a complete burn out. Why? Probably, because we feel that we ‘must’ or ‘should’ say ‘yes’ to every request.

But let’s not forget:

Time is our Greatest Asset!

 

We all have just 24 hours a day, seven days a week and we don’t know how many of those long we will have in total during our lifetime.

Therefore, I think it is time to remind ourselves on a regular basis of these three ‘tools’:

  1. Awareness

When you pay attention to your day and reflect on each past week, you may be able to spot a pattern of times you agreed to tasks or favours which actually disrupted whatever plans you initially had.

  1. Commitment

Depending on the commitments you have made, you may or may not be in the position to reduce the number of items on your ‘to-do-list’ and the number of unforeseen demands from others. This will help you to be more committed and present, while feeling less hustled or rushed to do things you don’t really want to do.

  1. Clear Communication

If you start to communicate clearly what you are able to do and what you are not, it gives the person requesting your help a better understanding and appreciation of your time.


 

I believe that we have to practice to say ‘No’ on a regular basis. Not to completely deny somebody a helping hand, but rather to give us the time we need to complete what we have initially planned to do.

 

I have to admit, that at times I feel really bad when I have to say no to somebody, but on the flip-side when I say yes at times, I realise quickly that it may have been helpful for the other person, while negatively affecting my own situation and derailing my own path.

 

Next time when somebody asks you to run an errand…

Pause and Think for a Moment

Prior to saying ‘Yes’

Let me know what you think.

All the Best & Speak to you tomorrow,

Naomi xxx

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